Seeing more than someone's faults

Seeing someone's faults is easy. Name a person and I can tell you in a matter of minutes the things about them that I do not like. We all have this canny ability to recognize all of the bad in people, however, this article focuses on how to see more than someone's faults, and start seeing their good qualities and attributes as well. The following are five things you can do see more in someone than their faults:

1. Taking time to get to know them. You will never be able to see past someone's faults if you do not get to know who they are. Faults are easier to spot than good attributes, so if you want to find those, you have to look deeper than the surface. The reason many people do not is that it takes effort and a lot of hard work. However, it can be a really enjoyable process as well. You can have a lot of fun in the process while hanging out, and doing things you both enjoy.
2. Spending time with them in many different situations. Have you ever been caught in a bad day? Would you like that one situation or day to be what defines you forever? No, so be very careful not to do that to others. Give them a chance to show you their other sides. You have to give people the benefit of the doubt, and spend time with them under various circumstances, so that you can see past their faults, and their reactions, to who they actually are. If you see them in their best element it will be easy to spot their positive qualities, so give yourself and them that chance.
3. Look for the best in them. If you want to see beyond someone's faults, you have to look for it. So, keep your eye open for things other than their faults. It is easy to pounce on someone's problems, but unless you make their positive attributes your focus, then you won't find them.
4. Ask them what they like about themselves. If you are having trouble getting through their faults to see things that are positive, ask them what they think their positive traits are. What you might see as stubbornness, and think is a bad thing, they might look at as a good thing because it might mean sticking to their beliefs. If you listen to what they like about themselves, you can take cues from it, and figure out that you like that too.
5. Have fun together. It is easy to see someone's faults if the time you spend with them is uncomfortable, or unhappy. However, when you are out having fun, and you seriously enjoy their company, it is harder to remember their faults.
It is not always easy to find things you like in others, but it is worth taking the time to stop looking at people's faults, and start looking for the good in them.